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Occasionally I wandered in where I was not wanted and gave truthful answers.
Sometimes I even did it deliberately. A little disruption now can prevent disaster later.

My comments on the “Billy Graham rule”

I used to think that this was a silly thing Christians used to hide their own insecurity. And if I had my druthers, I'd put this is a caution box with the red banner and be done with it.

Yeah. I can't do that anymore.

Like it or not, we live in the age of #MeToo. One inevitable result is the increase of false accusations of harassment and rape.

No, not every accusation is false. But a significant number are. Women have been handed a huge political power that no one wants to morally deny them. As long as false accusations are tolerated, even encouraged as the cost of setting right past wrongs, there is a huge temptation.

These days, an odd looking man is assumed to be a predator of women and children. If the man is unmarried, even more so. So if I am meeting someone for the first time, it's better with witnesses. If it's only going to be a casual relationship, there should be witnesses each and every time.

This means holding women at a distance. I have to watch myself. I have to watch my language. No matter what she is wearing, no matter how she looks, I can't allow myself to look too close for too long. I have to treat a woman as if she is less than fully human. As if my every move could utterly destroy her. As if she is unable to resist the corruption of my maleness.

And I do not dare be alone with her.

I don't like it. I think it's a stupid rule. But it's practical.
— NeoWayland, Billy Graham rule
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