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Occasionally I wandered in where I was not wanted and gave truthful answers.
Sometimes I even did it deliberately. A little disruption now can prevent disaster later.

A work in progress. Explaining words and phrases that I often use. Noting new and interesting ideas. Discussing certain verbal warning signs. There’s no social justice or political correctness here.

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sæternesdæg      See Saturday


Any of several holidays, usually four or eight in number, in Wicca and related Neopagan religious traditions.
Sabbats follow a solar cycle. The Lesser Sabbats fall on the equinoxes and solstices or quarter days. The Greater Sabbats fall on the cross-quarter days and are the gateways between seasons and thus the gateways between worlds.

I use the Moon cycles to honor the magick, and the solar and fire festivals to honor the gods.

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sacred fire

A consecrated fire used ceremonially or in religious worship.

Perhaps the best known example is the eternal flame at JFK’s gravesite.

Jewish tradition uses a sanctuary lamp or chancel lamp. This has been adopted by many religions. Katherine Kurtz used my favorite label, the Presence Lamp, in her Deryni novels. Many faiths hold that a sacred flame can be lit from the previous one, the purpose of the sanctuary lamp is to prolong a sacred flame.

In some traditions, a sacred fire may only be created only as it's needed. All other flame (and electrical) nearby should be extinguished. A sacred fire should be created from darkness or at least in low light. A sacred fire should be created by friction.

A weaker version of the sacred fire uses the unburnt fuel from a previous one. Thus the tradition to save part of the Yule log for the next year's Yule fire.

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safe space    caution

A place where cowards with cultural authoritarian and pro-censorship leanings go to in order to evade criticism and calling out of whatever absurd ideas they may express, as well as ideas that are even slightly opposed to the safe space dweller's ideas. These are labelled as whatever kind of bigotry would make the safe space dweller look like a victim the most.

The term safe space refers to places created for individuals who feel marginalized to come together to communicate regarding their experiences with marginalization, most commonly located on university campuses in the western world, but also at workplaces, as in the case of Nokia.

The terms safe space (or safe-space), safer space, and positive space may also indicate that a teacher, educational institution or student body does not tolerate violence, harassment, hate speech or dissenting views, thereby creating a safe place for all people.
Yeah, about that.

In my judgement, part of becoming an adult means learning to deal with people who don't agree with you and that you might not particularly like. It's one thing for a child to have a safe space, but needing a safe space strictly enforced by an outside authority isn't a sign of maturity. Or stability. Or self-reliance. Or much of anything except being a spoiled overgrown brat.

As long as an adult uses a safe space, they will always depend on the “parental authority” to make it better.

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  1. any of certain persons of exceptional holiness of life, formally recognized as such by the Christian Church, especially by canonization.
  2. a person of great holiness, virtue, or benevolence.
  3. a founder, sponsor, or patron, as of a movement or organization.
A saint brings benelovent change into the world and inspires others to make a positive difference.

Every single person who I have met and would call saint isn't living their faith, they ARE their faith but without the costumes.

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Saint Clement's Day       23November - See Firing of the Anvil

Saint John's Eve     See Litha, summer solstice

Saint Stephen's Day      26December

Samhain     Usually between 31October and 06November. This year's date.

Traditional neopagan sabbat. Cross quarter day, Greater Sabbat, High Holiday, fire festival & seasonal gateway. Samhain marks the midpoint between the autumnal equinox and the winter solstice and the beginning of winter. Last of three harvest festivals, the “blood harvest” marks the end of harvest season when the herds get culled for winter. Some folklore makes any harvesting or butchering between Samhain and Beltaine unlucky. Traditionally, the Dark weird to Beltaine. Festival of the dead. Celtic tradition holds that it's the end of autumn and the end of old year when the gates swing open for the new year.
Not only is Samhain the end of autumn; it is also, more importantly, the end of the old year and the beginning of the new. Celtic New Year’s Eve, when the new year begins with the onset of the dark phase of the year, just as the new day begins at sundown. There are many representations of Celtic Gods with two faces, and it surely must have been one of them who held sway over Samhain. Like his Roman counterpart Janus, he would straddle the threshold, one face turned toward the past, in commemoration of those who died during the last year, and one face gazing hopefully toward the future, mystic eyes attempting to pierce the veil and divine what the coming year holds. These two themes, celebrating the dead and divining the future, are inexorably intertwined in Samhain, as they are likely to be in any New Year’s celebration.

As a feast of the dead, this was the one night when the dead could, if they wished, return to the land of the living, to celebrate with their family, tribe, or clan. And so the great burial mounds of Ireland (sidhe mounds) were opened up, with lighted torches lining the walls, so the dead could find their way. Extra places were set at the table and food set out for any who had died that year. And there are many stories that tell of Irish heroes making raids on the Underworld while the gates of faery stood open, though all must return to their appointed places by cockcrow. As a feast of divination, this was the night par excellence for peering into the future. The reason for this has to do with the Celtic view of time. In a culture that uses a linear concept of time, like our modern one, New Year’s Eve is simply a milestone on a very long road that stretches in a straight line from birth to death. Thus, the New Year’s festival is a part of time. The ancient Celtic view of time, however, is cyclical. And in this framework, New Year’s Eve represents a point outside of time, when the natural order of the universe dissolves back into primordial chaos, preparatory to reestablishing itself in a new order. Thus, Samhain is a night that exists outside of time and, hence, it may be used to view any other point in time. At no other holiday is a tarot card reading, crystal reading, or tealeaf reading so likely to succeed.

The Christian religion, with its emphasis on the “historical” Christ and his act of Redemption 2000 years ago, is forced into a linear view of time, where seeing the future is an illogical proposition. In fact, from the Christian perspective, any attempt to do so is seen as inherently evil. This did not keep the medieval church from co-opting Samhain’s other motif, commemoration of the dead. To the church, however, it could never be a feast for all the dead, but only the blessed dead, all those hallowed (made holy) by obedience to God—thus, All Hallow’s, or Hallowmas, later All Saints and All Souls.
Samhain All Hallows Eve/Halloween
from The Witches Sabbats

As October turns to November, thousands of Witches, Wiccans, Druids, and other Pagans across America, Canada, Europe, and elsewhere observe the sacred time of Samhain. Samhain is a festival of the Dead. Meaning "Summer's End" and pronounced saah-win or saa-ween, Samhain is a celebration of the end of the harvest and the start of the coldest half of the year. For many practitioners, myself included, Samhain also is the beginning of the spiritual new year.

Originating in ancient Europe as a Celtic Fire festival, Samhain is now celebrated worldwide. The timing of contemporary Samhain celebrations varies according to spiritual tradition and geography. Many of us celebrate Samhain over the course of several days and nights, and these extended observances usually include a series of solo rites as well as ceremonies, feasts, and gatherings with family, friends, and spiritual community. In the northern hemisphere, many Pagans celebrate Samhain from sundown on October 31 through November 1. Others hold Samhain celebrations on the nearest weekend or on the Full or New Moon closest to this time. Some Pagans observe Samhain a bit later, or near November 6, to coincide more closely with the astronomical midpoint between Fall Equinox and Winter Solstice. Most Pagans in the southern hemisphere time their Samhain observances to coincide with the middle of their Autumn in late April and early May, rather than at the traditional European time of the holiday.
Celebrating Samhain from Circle Sanctuary

…in ancient Celtic religion, one of the most important and sinister calendar festivals of the year. At Samhain, held on November 1, the world of the gods was believed to be made visible to humankind, and the gods played many tricks on their mortal worshippers; it was a time fraught with danger, charged with fear, and full of supernatural episodes. Sacrifices and propitiations of every kind were thought to be vital, for without them the Celts believed they could not prevail over the perils of the season or counteract the activities of the deities. Samhain was an important precursor to Halloween.

As millions of children and adults participate in the fun of Halloween on the night of October 31st, few will be aware of its ancient Celtic roots in the Samhain (Samain) festival. In Celtic Ireland about 2,000 years ago, Samhain was the division of the year between the lighter half (summer) and the darker half (winter). At Samhain the division between this world and the otherworld was at its thinnest, allowing spirits to pass through.

The family's ancestors were honoured and invited home whilst harmful spirits were warded off. People wore costumes and masks to disguise themselves as harmful spirits and thus avoid harm. Bonfires and food played a large part in the festivities. The bones of slaughtered livestock were cast into a communal fire, household fires were extinguished and started again from the bonfire. Food was prepared for the living and the dead, food for the ancestors who were in no position it eat it, was ritually shared with the less well off.

Christianity incorporated the honouring of the dead into the Christian calendar with All Saints (All Hallows) on November 1st, followed by All Souls on November 2nd. The wearing of costumes and masks to ward off harmful spirits survived as Halloween customs. The Irish emigrated to America in great numbers during the 19th century especially around the time of famine in Ireland during the 1840's. The Irish carried their Halloween traditions to America, where today it is one of the major holidays of the year. Through time other traditions have blended into Halloween, for example the American harvest time tradition of carving pumpkins.

Samhuinn, from October 31st to November 2nd, was a time of no-time. Celtic society, like all early societies, was highly structured and organised - everyone knew their place. But to allow that order to be psychologically comfortable, the Celts knew that there had to be a time when order and structure were abolished - when chaos could reign. And Samhuinn was such a time. Time was abolished for the three days of this festival, and people did crazy things - men dressed as women and women as men. Farmers' gates were unhinged and left in ditches, peoples' horses were moved to different fields, and children would knock on neighbours' doors for food and treats in a way that we still find today, in a watered-down way, in the custom of trick-or-treating on Hallowe'en.

But behind this apparent lunacy, lay a deeper meaning. The Druids knew that these three days had a special quality about them. The veil between this world and the World of the Ancestors was drawn aside on these nights, and for those who were prepared, journeys could be made in safety to the 'other side'. The Druid rites, therefore, were concerned with making contact with the spirits of the departed, who were seen as sources of guidance and inspiration rather than as sources of dread. The dark moon, the time when no moon can be seen in the sky, was the phase of the moon which ruled this time, because it represents a time in which our mortal sight needs to be obscured in order for us to see into the other worlds.

The dead are honoured and feasted, not as the dead, but as the living spirits of loved ones and of guardians who hold the root-wisdom of the tribe. With the coming of Christianity, this festival was turned into All Hallows [commonly referred to as Hallowe'en on October 31st], All Saints [November 1st] and All Souls [November 2nd]. Here we can see most clearly the way in which Christianity built on the pagan foundations it found rooted in these isles. Not only does the purpose of the festival match with the earlier one, but even the unusual length of the festival is the same.
The Eightfold Wheel of the Year & the Druid Festivals
from The Order of Bards, Ovates & Druids

See also All Hallows, All Hallows Eve, Feast of Apples, Feast of the Dead, fire festival, Hallows, Halloween, November Eve, Oie Houney, Summer's End, Wintergate, Wintergate, Wintergate, Winter Nights

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sanguine  caution

The personality type of Sanguine is described primarily as being enthusiastic, active, and social. Sanguines tend to be more extroverted and enjoy being part of a crowd; they find that being social, outgoing, and charismatic is easy to accomplish. Individuals with this personality have a hard time doing nothing and engage in more risk seeking behaviour.

  1. cheerfully optimistic, hopeful, or confident:
    a sanguine disposition; sanguine expectations.
  2. reddish; ruddy:
    a sanguine complexion.
  3. (in old physiology) having blood as the predominating humor and consequently being ruddy-faced, cheerful, etc.
  4. bloody; sanguinary.
  5. blood-red; red.
  6. Heraldry. a reddish-purple tincture.

People with sanguine personality type tend to be lively, optimistic, buoyant, and carefree. They love adventure and have a high risk tolerance. Typically, Sanguine people are very poor at tolerating boredom and will seek variety and entertainment. Needless to say, this trait may sometimes negatively affect their romantic relationships. Because this temperament is prone to pleasure-seeking behaviors, many people with sanguine personality are likely to struggle with addictions. Their constant cravings may lead to overeating and weight problems.

These people are very creative and may become great artists. In addition, they are fantastic entertainers and will naturally do well if they choose careers in entertainment industry.

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sarsen       sarcen

any of numerous large sandstone blocks or fragments found in south-central England, probably remnants of eroded Tertiary beds.

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saterday      See Saturday


Say's law

Say's law of markets is a classical economic theory that says that production is the source of demand. According to Say's law, the ability to demand something is financed by supplying a different good.
Say's Law Of Markets from Investopedia

See also division of labor
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  1. a diagram, plan, or scheme.
  2. an underlying organizational pattern or structure; conceptual framework:
    A schema provides the basis by which someone relates to the events he or she experiences.
  3. (in Kantian epistemology) a concept, similar to a universal but limited to phenomenal knowledge, by which an object of knowledge or an idea of pure reason may be apprehended.

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schöpferische Zerstörung      See creative destruction

Schumpeter's gale      See creative destruction


In the fictional Dresden Files, Jim Butcher calls the offspring of a supernatuaral creature and a human a scion. I've never heard the word used that way, but stranger things have happened.
  1. a detached living portion of a plant (such as a bud or shoot) joined to a stock in grafting and usually supplying solely aerial parts to a graft
    1. descendant, child; especially : a descendant of a wealthy, aristocratic, or influential family
    2. heir scion of a railroad empire

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scotophilia      See nyctophilia

sealioning    caution

A subtle form of trolling involving "bad-faith" questions. You disingenuously frame your conversation as a sincere request to be enlightened, placing the burden of educating you entirely on the other party. If your bait is successful, the other party may engage, painstakingly laying out their logic and evidence in the false hope of helping someone learn. In fact you are attempting to harass or waste the time of the other party, and have no intention of truly entertaining their point of view. Instead, you react to each piece of information by misinterpreting it or requesting further clarification, ad nauseum. The name "sea-lioning" comes from a Wondermark comic strip.
Some social justice warrior types insist that the Socratic method is a form of sealioning, especially if they are unprepared and don't know the answers. Of course it isn't.
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Seasonal Affective Disorder

Depression that occurs seasonally in the winter or cold weather. Far too common.

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second law of ecology     “Everything must go somewhere.”

There is no “waste” in nature, and there is no “away” to which things can be thrown. Everything, such as wood smoke, nuclear waste, carbon emissions, etc., must go somewhere.

The second law of ecology, everything must go somewhere, restates a basic law of thermodynamics: in nature there is no final waste, matter and energy are preserved, and the waste produced in one ecological process is recycled in another. For instance, a downed tree or log in an old-growth forest is a source of life for numerous species and an essential part of the ecosystem. Likewise, animals excrete carbon dioxide to the air and organic compounds to the soil, which help to sustain plants upon which animals will feed.

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Self-Knowledge, The Law of
     See The Law of Self-Knowledge

semi-shaman     (depreciated)

Some of my practices and results are similar to traditional shamanism, but my “totems” were different and my cultural references were wrong. I was always careful to make the distinction. Now I just do it and don’t bother to explain.

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September      Ninth month of the Gregorian or Julian calendar year.

sepulchre     sepulcher

  1. a tomb, grave, or burial place.
  2. Also called Easter sepulcher. Ecclesiastical.
    1. a cavity in a mensa for containing relics of martyrs.
    2. a structure or a recess in some old churches in which the Eucharist was deposited with due ceremonies on Good Friday and taken out at Easter in commemoration of Christ's entombment and Resurrection.
  3. to place in a sepulcher; bury

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seven deadly sins      from Bibleinfocaution

7 pocket jeans      See carpenter pants

Seven Principles of Leave No Trace

  • Plan ahead and prepare
  • Travel and camp on durable surfaces
  • Dispose of waste properly
  • Leave what you find
  • Minimize campfire impacts
  • Respect wildlife
  • Be considerate of other visitors

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sex      Sharing pleasure through sensation.
     sex links      sex-cautionary

Copulation. Coitus. Strictly speaking, thrusting a penis or other piece of anatomy into a vagina, anus, mouth or body curve/crease for mutual pleasure often resulting in orgasm. Intercouse in all of it's human variations. An activity I enjoy very much. I practice sex. I study sex. I talk about sex when I can. I play. I experiment.

I've decided to do what I can to separate sex from politics.

I share sex because experiencing it alone is less than half the fun.

Morality in sexual relations, when it is free from superstition, consists essentially in respect for the other person, and unwillingness to use that person solely as a means of personal gratification, without regard to his or her desires.
— Bertrand Russell
If you care for the other person, if you respect them, if you share deep passions with them, then the sex makes all that better.

I discuss the practical and ethical aspects of sex and sexuality, but this is not a porn or erotica site. You will find nudes, but you won't find sex photos. There is some art showing sex and orgasms in a ritual or mythical context.

I enjoy sex with friends if they are willing. My most important sex rule is The Lady Always Chooses. You see, it's the seduction that appeals to me most. Why rely on force when friendship is more challenging and more rewarding?

I pride myself on my ability playing the nerves of my sexual partners. Giving her pleasure is a bigger turn-on than my own climax. I learned a long time ago that it's worth the trouble to make sure she's got at least two climaxes for every one of mine. It keeps her smiling too.

Once you get past the petting and snuggling and stroking and oral manipulation, that's fucking or casual sex. Fucking means letting the animal part of you out. Deep sex is when you connect on multiple emotional levels beyond the immediate sensation. Fucking scratches the itch. Deep sex gets rid of the itch and gives you a whole new perspective. There is a difference.

I’m a sensualist. I’m wired for sex and sensation. When I see a pretty girl, part of me is wondering what sex with her would be like. When there’s a woman I respect, part of me is wondering what sex with her would be like. When there’s an intelligent woman, part of me is wondering what sex with her would be like. When there’s an intelligent woman with character who I disagree with, I’m horny and I want to fuck her now! Yes, I’m that sex obsessed. No, I don't think that is unusual for men.

Civilized men know life is more than sex, food, and sleep. We don't need to fuck everything with a hole. There's nothing wrong with that desire, it's just better served by focusing on tommorow instead of today. We're measured by the lives we touch.

I'm one of those "nekkid pagans who dig the sex" and my attitudes are considerably different than traditional mainstream America. There's strong evidence that sex is more about pleasure and bonding than producing children. We know that skin to skin contact releases endorphins. We know that grooming and hair brushing does too. We know sharing orgasms makes people feel closer.

Nudity is not sex. Nudity is not love. Nudity does not invite sex.

Sex is exploding hormones. Love is commitment. The two should not be confused.

Unless it's with me, who you have sex with, how you have sex, and how many times you have sex is frankly none of my business. Likewise, unless it is sex with me, I'm not responsible for the consequences.

sex cautionary

One inevitable result of today's political climate is that honest opinions become politically unpopular and problematic. Which means that articles and domains disappear from the internet. Maybe the original authors rethought their views. And maybe selective editing and cultivating link rot is easier than dealing with criticism and fallout.

Sex related links

acknowledge but not celebrate    attiudes on nudity    attitudes on sex

bawdy    Billy Graham rule    bisexual    blood magick    A bonding behavior

carnal    casual sex    children & sex    collecting pelts    companion    cunnilingus

deep sex    Dunbar's number

eros    eros    erotic    ethical slut    exhibitionism

FamousFeminist    fellatio    feminism (first wave)    feminism (fourth wave)    feminism (libertarian)    feminism (second wave)    feminism (third wave)
fertility cult    fur

gay    gender role    Great Rite

hate fuck


kids & sex

lesbian    love

mala  rohibita    mesopaganism    Mike Pence rule    miscegenation    monotheism’s third sin

naturism & naturist    nekkid

orientation    oxytocin

pansexual    pagan attitudes on nudity & sex    pillow talk problem    polyamory    polygamy

risqué    Ro3 № 5    Ro3№ 19    Ro3 № 20    rule, Billy Graham    rule, Mike Pence

sex    sex magick    Sex & the Modern Pagan    sex ‑ ritual    sex rules    sexual beings    sexual initiation (pagan)    sexuality    sexuality ‑ gender role    sexuality ‑ orientation    sexuality ‑ somatic    skyclad

Tailltean marriage

vapor wear

Westermarck effect

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sex - ritual      - sex magick

Formal, structured symbolic coitus used in a religious or magickal rite. Mine is a fertility religion after all.

My faith recognizes male and female Principles (and Principals too) while honoring sexuality and fertility. There are variations of course, but the union of male and female is the root. That also means that for me, sex and sexual behavior are sacred. Not because it's sex, but because celebrating life around us and within us reveals our shared Divinity. Sex is one way we can enjoy both ourselves and others. It's a gift from the gods. I seek the Divine in every woman I meet. Sometimes I find it, sometimes I don't. Sex can be a sacrament, but not usually.

Many Wiccans and witches believe that all things contain a primal energy or vital life force that moves within and among them. This energy is most easily experienced through sexual activity, especially when it is raised with spiritual intent. Through their sexual intimacy, practitioners can participate in a primal moment of creation: a moment when two divine forces or beings—imagined as a many-gendered God/dess making love with her mirror reflection; or a lunar Goddess and a solar God; or a genderless yin and yang, nothing and something—communed together in an erotic union whose vibrations continue to animate the universe.

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sex rules

I have eight main sex rules. The first two are carved-in-stone unbreakable and easily solve 97% of sex problems in America today.

  1.  Consenting adults only. 
    Emphasis on the C-O-N-S-E-N-T-I-N-G.
    Emphasis on the A-D-U-L-T-S.
    Anything else is rape and should be treated as such. No means no.
    • Your desire does not control another's choice. For me, that means The Lady Always Chooses.
    • Obviously that also means no touching another without permission. Every human is their own person, that includes their body. You own yourself, mind, soul, and body. Nobody gets to grope you unless you want it. If you don't want that, tell them clearly enough so there can be no misunderstanding.
    • Most seduction takes more time than the sex. Done right, seducing is fun and more rewarding too.
    • If someone relies on force and threats for something whose triggers are hard-wired into our very biology, that doesn't say much about their character. Or their ability to pleasure their partners and themselves.
    •  "Don't fuck with kids."  Let the kids grow up and work it out for themselves, just like they do with sports, what clothes to wear, what and when to eat, reading a good book, and using the toilet. Being a kid means learning to deal with life. Kids don't need weird adults complicating sex.
      • It's not discussed in polite American society, but children are sexual beings. Yes, even the prepubescents. Just because those feelings exist does not mean adults should cultivate those feelings in kids.
      • American culture sexualizes children and has for decades. There are eight year old beauty pageant contestants wearing more makeup than a twenty-two year old who is club hopping.
      • The extended childhood thing in the U.S. is a post-WWII innovation. Well into the 1960s, some rural locations had marriages where the bride and groom were under sixteen. Hang around farm animals long enough and you'll learn plenty about sex.
      • I'm willing to accept the age of consent as a working compromise even though I know a child has been exposed to sexuality pretty much since the day they were born. You can't be human and avoid it. We're wired for it, we long for a simple touch when we don't have it.
    • Sometimes I think breaking this rule should result in the forced removal of body parts. Without anesthetic. And dull blades. On live television. But, of course, that would offend modern sensibilities. How it would offend more than rape is something that I am still waiting for someone to explain.

  2.  If you promised to be someone else’s “one and only,” you’re off limits.  Honor demands nothing less.

  3. Regret does not equal rape.

  4. Acknowledge but not celebrate. It works for sexuality, religion, and politics. Some believe that their moral choices should compel my behavior. Obviously I disagree. I'm under no obligation to fuck you so you can feel validated.

  5. I don't tell you who to fuck, and I expect that you won't tell others who they can't fuck as long as it's unpledged consenting adults. See rules 1 & 2.

  6. Incest is not a good idea.

  7.  Be honest with your partner. 
    Don't hide infections, somatic sexuality, orientation, gender role, kinks, quirks, and other current partners. Don't conceal who or what you are because you don't think your partner will accept it.

  8. If you care for the other person, if you respect them, if you share deep passions with them, then the sex makes all that better.
    More bluntly, don't fuck people you don't like. At the very least, sex should include close friendship.

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sexual beings      Your desire does not control another's choice.

“The greatest thing you'll ever learn

Is just to love and be loved in return”

You must learn to give, from sufficiency, not only take, from neediness.
- Lois McMaster Bujold, A Civil Campaign
Some people go through their entire lives never learning that simple fact. We're judged by how we touch the lives of others, physically, mentally and spiritually. Touch another without consent and against their will and that is abuse no matter how it makes you feel. Obligating someone with a "gift" is still manipulation.

While humans are sexual beings, we’re not defined solely by sex. Looks can be important, sure, but that’s not all there is. What you see on the outside is just the outer layer. People aren't limted by genitalia or body shape. The brain is still the vital sex organ.

Sometimes it’s what I learn about a woman that arouses me. Anyone who can hold their own in a discussion with me gets my attention. If they’re female, that means more attention than I gave at first glance.

In Western culture, beauty and sex appeal are cheap and plentiful. But someone who knows how to think! Someone who knows and cherishes honor! Someone who’s willing to stand up for what they believe is right even if it’s unpopular! Those rare qualities show just how worthy someone really is. That’s when it’s not about the perfect body. That’s when it’s about talking and sharing after coitus. That’s when it’s about the smells and sounds and the way flesh feels in the dark. That’s when you want to spend time with someone you trust and admire. That's a sure way to deep sex.

Sex is more than exchanging fluids, friction, DNA, viruses and bacteria. Sex is about life. Sex can make your life better. Or it can drain your passion to nearly nothing.

Sex is not love although there is certainly a hormonal charge. I think it's one of the great failings of our culture to insist that love and sex are aspects of the same thing.

Sex is easy, it's practically wired into the biology. Relationships are hard. Anonymous sex without an emotional connection is mutual masturbation and probably won't be a lasting relationship. I know from experience that one night stands are fairly childish and not emotionally healthy. Given a chance, people outgrow that. I did. Millions of others do too.

That differentiates casual sex from deep sex. The body heat and skin-to-skin contact enhance the bond, but the root of the bond isn’t sex. Do you trust the other person? Do you trust them to tell you truth? Do you trust them not to hurt you or yours? Do you trust them not to steal? Do you trust them enough to share your tomorrow? Can they trust you? Shared trust is what can make it work. What else is worth talking about?

No, sex does not equal romantic love. No, nudity does not equal sex. Most importantly,  without consent sex is abuse. 

You are your own person, no one owns you except you. Sex is something you share with someone you care for and trust. You shouldn't share with people you don't trust or don't like.

Here’s the secret that all those how-to sex books won’t tell you. If you care for the other person, if you respect them, if you share deep passions with them, then the sex makes all that better. The more you know about them and the more they know about you, the better the sex will be. If they push your mind and spirit while you push theirs, you’ll never be bored.

All that without the exotic positions, the extra toys, the role play, and the power play.

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sexual initiation (pagan)

Ritual sex combined with granting power and knowlege.

No, I don't know exactly what's involved. I wouldn't tell you if I did. The last thing this World needs is another creep hitting on someone for Secret Sex Rites because of something they read on the internet.

Some will tell you that there are no pagan sexual initiations. That's not exactly true, but I know of only a handful. Every one was a single line, which means that the magick could only be passed once from teacher to student, who in turn could only pass it on only once. No moonlit orgies there.

If a group requires sex, it's a safe bet that someone is collecting pelts and you can find something safer AND BETTER elsewhere.

If you are uncomfortable with sex and ritual combined, just don't do it.

 I know of no ethical pagan practice that involves non-consensual sex.  Even in the ones that involve bondage and discipline and power exchange, there's always consent. And if you don't believe me, go read your Gardner and Crowley again.

Sex and magick can be mind-blowing, but do yourself a favor and keep the sex safe. You'll be glad you did.

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sexuality     somaticorientationgender role

Sexuality is a thing of the mind, not of the genitalia.
— Maggie McNeill, Rope of Sand
We humans have made this very complicated, especially in Western Civilizations.

❝More and more I've noticed that there is a difference between someone who calls themselves X and someone who calls themselves a person who happens to be X.

When you let your politics define your personhood, there's not much room left for your personhood outside of your politics. Without your personhood, you can lose empathy and humanity.❞
Sorting out the labels
  • Asexual - doesn't experience sexual desire or sexual attraction.
  • Bisexual - attracted to men and women.
  • Cisgender - identifies with the physical gender they were born with. Doesn't have anything to do with what genders they are attracted to.
  • Gender fluid - Someone whose gender identity or gender expression is not fixed and shifts depending on the situation.
  • Genderqueer - I'm still trying to figure this one out.
  • Intersex - Not female or male due to anatomical, genetic, or hormonal differences.
  • Pansexual - attracted to multiple sexes or gender identities.
  • Queer - fomerly pejorative reclaimed as a proud declaration, refers to those not straight and/or cisgender.
  • Transgender - Describes someone whose gender identity does not match the physical gender they were born with. Some call this the assigned gender.
Somatic or body sexuality consists of the genitalia and other sexual characteristics that your body naturally manifests. This is the least important part of a person's sexuality and the hardest to change.

Somatic sexuality is not easily modified. Modified somatic sexuality is not easily reversed.
At present, there is no easy way to change somatic sexuality. Such attempts may create deeper problems, especially before sexual maturity.

Rapid-onset gender dysphoria describes a phenomenon where the development of gender dysphoria is observed to begin suddenly during or after puberty in an adolescent or young adult who would not have met criteria for gender dysphoria in childhood. ROGD appears to represent an entity that is distinct in etiology from the gender dysphoria observed in individuals who have previously been described as transgender. It is plausible that ROGD represents an ego-syntonic maladaptive coping mechanism for some AYAs and that peer group and online influences may contribute to its development. It is unknown whether the gender dysphoria of rapid-onset gender dysphoria is temporary or likely to be long-term. The elevated number of friends per friendship group who became transgender-identified, the pattern of cluster outbreaks of transgender-identification in these friendship groups, the substantial percentage of friendship groups where the majority of the members became transgender-identified, and the peer group dynamics observed all serve to support the plausibility of social and peer contagion for ROGD. The worsening of mental well-being and parent-child relationships and behaviors that isolate teens from their parents, families, non-transgender friends and mainstream sources of information are particularly concerning. More research is needed to better understand rapid-onset gender dysphoria, its implications, and scope.
Although not trendy to say, surgical and hormonal modification with our current technology will complicate the situation and probably won't solve existing problems.

I can't see somatic sex modification for pre-teens and teenagers as anything other than child abuse.
Sexual orientation defines which somatic sex attracts you. Like most social definitions, it's human created and can change. Depending on circumstances and the people around you, it is natural for sexual orientation to shift. It's also natural for sexual orientation to stay stable throughout a lifetime.

I've found that words like straight, lesbian, gay, bisexual, and pansexual tend to be excuses. You're not exclusively the label, and the word can limit what you allow yourself to be. Remember you are not label, you are a person who at this moment feels label. That can and probably will change.

Shorn of politics and power games, the only label is sexual. As long as it is unpledged consenting adults, what else matters?

Remember that orientation is a label and that your orientation doesn't govern anyone else. Sex should be about choice and consent.

I get the impression that sexuality, for many younger people, is now just about sexuality, and not that much about identity. Is this the beginning of the end, then, of identity politics?

The gay rights movement was built on recognizing and celebrating differences based on sexual orientation. But as sexual orientation becomes more like a space of fluid and changing experiences, rather than a series of boxes marked "gay," "straight" or "bisexual," sexual orientation loses its power as an organizing force. Can you have a Gay Pride march if everyone is merely "open-minded"?
The third major aspect of sexuality is the gender role. This is the persona that one presents to the world. Some cultures have very strict limits on the gender role, especially if it differs from somatic sexuality.

Traditionally some cultures have used unusual gender roles to mark religious or magickal practices.

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shadow banning    caution

The practice of shadow banning involves an administrator or system operator hiding posts from a particular user in order to minimize their effect on a readership. Shadow banning has been a common strategy on forums for dealing with malicious or inappropriate behavior or censoring some form of user traffic.

Shadow banning is also known as stealth banning or ghost banning.
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I prefer operating from the fringe. No great recognition, but no glow in the dark targets either.

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Shenn da Boaldyn     See Beltaine

Shockley-Queisser Limit      solar limitations

…first calculated by William Shockley and Hans Queisser in 1961. A solar cell's energy conversion efficiency is the percentage of power converted from sunlight to electrical energy under "standard test conditions" (STC). The STC conditions approximate solar noon at the spring and autumn equinoxes in the continental United States with the surface of the solar cell aimed directly at the sun.

The modern SQ Limit calculation is a maximum efficiency of 33% for any type of single junction solar cell. The original calculation by Shockley and Queisser was 30% for a silicon solar cell. Current solar cell production efficiencies vary by the band gap of the semiconductor material as shown on the left.

The best modern production silicon cell efficiency is 24% at the cell level and 20% at the module level as reported by SunPower in March of, 2012. In a laboratory, the record solar cell efficiency is held by the University Of New South Wales in Sydney, Australia at 25%.
The Shockley Queisser Efficiency Limit
from Solar Cell Central

The SQ limit is much like the carnot efficiency of heat engines. It puts an upper limit on the maximum achievable efficiency of a solar cell based on fundamental physics, material properties and on the nature of the incident solar radiation. For example, under the assumptions of the limit, commercially popular crystalline silicon solar cells can never exceed an efficiency of 33% in converting sunlight to electricity on earth’s surface. Other considerations further lower this limit, but several techniques can also work around the assumptions and can thus create cells with greater efficiencies.
Shockley Queisser limit from Photovoltaic Site

In science, the Shockley–Queisser limit, refers to the maximum theoretical efficiency of a conventional solar cell using a single p-n junction to collect power from the cell. It was first calculated by William Shockley and Hans-Joachim Queisser at Shockley Semiconductor in 1961, giving a maximum efficiency of 30% at 1.1 eV. However, this calculation used a simplified model of the solar spectrum, and more recent calculations give a maximum efficiency of 33.7% at 1.34 eV, but the value is still referred to as the Shockley-Queisser limit in their honor. The limit is one of the most fundamental to solar energy production with photovoltaic cells, and is considered to be one of the most important contributions in the field.

That is, of all the power contained in sunlight (about 1000 W/m²) falling on an ideal solar cell, only 33.7% of that could ever be turned into electricity (337 W/m²). The most popular solar cell material, silicon, has a less favorable band gap of 1.1 eV, resulting in a maximum efficiency of about 32%. Modern commercial mono-crystalline solar cells produce about 24% conversion efficiency, the losses due largely to practical concerns like “reflection off the front of the cell” & “light blockage from the thin wires on the cell surface”.
Using existing technology, there is no way to overcome this limit. It would require a totally different type of solar cell. There's also the limit that solar power only works as long as there is sunlight. Limits on battery technology further limit the amount of energy that can be stored.
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Shrove Tuesday - Fat Tuesday - Mardi Gras
     See Selected Christian Observances

sidereal month    See month, sidereal

Silver Rule

Do for yourself at least as much as you do for others.

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Similarity, The Law of      See The Law of Similarity

simony    caution

  1. the making of profit out of sacred things.
  2. the sin of buying or selling ecclesiastical preferments, benefices, etc.

Simony, buying or selling of something spiritual or closely connected with the spiritual. More widely, it is any contract of this kind forbidden by divine or ecclesiastical law. The name is taken from Simon Magus (Acts 8:18), who endeavoured to buy from the Apostles the power of conferring the gifts of the Holy Spirit.

Simony, in the form of buying holy orders, or church offices, was virtually unknown in the first three centuries of the Christian church, but it became familiar when the church had positions of wealth and influence to bestow. The first legislation on the point was the second canon of the Council of Chalcedon (451). From that time prohibitions and penalties were reiterated against buying or selling promotions to the episcopate, priesthood, and diaconate. Later, the offense of simony was extended to include all traffic in benefices and all pecuniary transactions on masses (apart from the authorized offering), blessed oils, and other consecrated objects.

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situational vortex

A series of ever expanding tasks moving further and further away from the original goal.

In order to do one task, another task should be completed. But to really do the second task right, a third one should be done. As long as the third task is going to be done, then a related fourth task would be easy enough. And so on and so on.

From an essay by noted outdoor humorist Patrick F. McManus.

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A common practice among some bloggers and websites where most of the text in an entry came uncredited from someone else. Sadly, I’ve done this more than I should have. I do try to limit what I quote and give credit whenever I can.

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skyclad      Nudity does not necessarily or even mostly equal sex.

To be naked, specifically during spiritual ritual (pagan/wiccan).

Some believe that clothing interferes with the natural energies of magick, and that it brings you closer to the Earth.
When it comes to magick, yep, I usually shuck the clothes and do the "nekkid pagan guy" thing. Nudity doesn't usually excite me, but magick does, with all the physical symptoms. Yes, I get erect and my nipples get harder. Despite my body's reactions, I very seldom use a sexual release in my magick.

I'm not the only pagan who prefers to work nude. It's probably because most pagan paths are experienced rather than revealed, and sensuality is a major part of experience. That's why some pagans use ritual garb chosen as much for it's texture as it's color.

Nudity is not necessary for magick. It's very much a personal choice. It can be distracting and in today's society and can introduce sexual complications (even though it shouldn't). That's one reason why I wear clothes when I work with others or when someone is likely to see me.
In some Pagan traditions, including but not limited to Wicca, rituals may be held in the nude, also referred to as skyclad, or “clad only by the sky.” Being skyclad is not sexual in nature. Of those who practice skyclad, many say that it helps bring them closer to the Divine, because there is literally nothing between them and the Gods. In other traditions, a person may be skyclad only during certain ceremonies, such as an initiation rite.

There are a number of reasons for going skyclad, but there is not a hard and fast rule that it must be done. Just as many Pagans work robed as skyclad. Why would someone choose to work in the nude? Let's take a look at some possible reasons. For some, it's because there is a sense of freedom and power that comes from being without the confines of clothing.

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slacktivism    caution

The self-deluded idea that by liking, sharing, or retweeting something you are helping out.

Slacktivism (slactivism or slackervism, a portmanteau of slacker and activism) is a pejorative term for "feel-good" measures in support of an issue or social cause. Slacktivism is showing support for a cause with the main purpose of boosting the egos of participants in the movement. The action may have little effect other than to make the person doing it feel satisfied that they have contributed. Slactivism is often a form of virtue signalling. The underlying assumption being promoted by the term is that these low-cost efforts substitute for more substantive actions rather than supplementing them, although this assumption has been criticized.

Many websites and news platforms have integrated social media sites such as Facebook and Twitter into their interface, allowing people to easily "like", "share" or "tweet" about something interesting they saw on the Internet. People can now express concern about social or political issues with nothing more than the click of a mouse, raising the question of what is actually being accomplished by these "likes" when very little thought or effort is required.

Slacktivist activities include signing Internet petitions, joining a community organization without contributing to the organization's efforts, copying and pasting of social network statuses or messages or altering one's personal data or avatar on social network services. Research is beginning to explore the connection between the concept and modern activism/advocacy, as groups are increasingly using social media to facilitate civic engagement and collective action.

Plastic straw bans are essentially environmental virtue signaling. The green impact is negligible, especially if the bans are done piecemeal instead of nationally. The most one might say of them is that they’re a small way to insinuate environmental consciousness into the average’s person daily routine. The least one might say is that they’re green slacktivism.

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  1. Disparaging and Offensive. a sexually promiscuous woman, or a woman who behaves or dresses in an overtly sexual way.
  2. Informal. a person with a seemingly insatiable but often undiscerning desire to do or have something specified
  3. Archaic.
    1. a prostitute; harlot.
    2. an immoral or dissolute woman.
    3. a dirty, slovenly woman.

A woman with the morals of a man.
— popular 20th Century saying
A sexually active person, usually a woman. One who openly pursues sexual partners. One whose clothing emphasizes or exposes body parts commonly kept covered.

I'm not going discuss risks of pregnancy or sexual diseases here. Although those topics should influence your behavior, they do not have bearing on the definition. Except as an excuse to disparage another.

Sex in moderation is a good thing. As I see it, the problem comes when society or religion limits sexual activity for moral reasons. Anything outside those limits gets labeled immoral and risqué.

Like any other human activity, self-discipline and
self-moderation make the difference.

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social contract      social compact    caution

In moral and political philosophy, the social contract is a theory or model that originated during the Age of Enlightenment and usually concerns the legitimacy of the authority of the state over the individual. Social contract arguments typically posit that individuals have consented, either explicitly or tacitly, to surrender some of their freedoms and submit to the authority (of the ruler, or to the decision of a majority) in exchange for protection of their remaining rights or maintenance of the social order. The relation between natural and legal rights is often a topic of social contract theory.

The idea of the social contract had a huge impact on the American Founding Fathers, especially Thomas Jefferson (1743–1826) and James Madison (1751–1836). The U.S. Constitution starts with the three words, "We the people...," embodying this idea of popular sovereignty in the very beginning of this key document. Following from this principle, a government established by the free choice of its people is required to serve the people, who in the end have sovereignty, or supreme power, to keep or overthrow that government.

Jefferson and John Adams (1735–1826), often political rivals, agreed in principle but disagreed about whether a strong central government (Adams and the federalists) or a weak one (Jefferson and the Democratic-Republicans) sufficed best for supporting the social contract.
The Social Contract from ThoughtCo.
Today this phrase is abused. The American Federal government does not have unlimited power. The state does not have the power to obligate me. From taxing, we've moved to obligations in perpetuity. Social security, “too big to fail,” grants, foreign aid, medical care, all made on “the full faith and credit of the United States” without a definite goal or measurable end point.

Mala prohibita laws obligate citizens to follow religious laws or morality that they didn't choose, “For Their Own Good” or “For The Greater Good.”

Most importantly, the social contract can't be changed by the citizens, only by the elites. So it enforces obligation without active consent.

Today's social contract reeks of indentured servitude imposed before birth.

Nowhere in the Constitution is there anything about passing liabilities on to generations unborn, or making taxpayers responsible for other's mistakes and failures. That people choose to make things right speaks to their character, not to their duty.

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A pejorative term for an individual who repeatedly and vehemently engages in arguments on social justice on the Internet, often in a shallow or not well-thought-out way, for the purpose of raising their own personal reputation. A social justice warrior, or SJW, does not necessarily strongly believe all that they say, or even care about the groups they are fighting on behalf of. They typically repeat points from whoever is the most popular blogger or commenter of the moment, hoping that they will "get SJ points" and become popular in return. They are very sure to adopt stances that are "correct" in their social circle

A person who uses the fight for civil rights as an excuse to be rude, condescending, and sometimes violent for the purpose of relieving their frustrations or validating their sense of unwarranted moral superiority. The behaviors of Social justice warriors usually have a negative impact on the civil rights movement, turning away potential allies and fueling the resurgence of bigoted groups that scoop up people who have been burned or turned off by social justice warriors.

What is a Social Justice Warrior?

The term "Social Justice Warrior" (SJW) came about as a pejorative term to refer to a person who berates other internet users over matters of political correctness, but has since evolved to refer to a specific movement within tech and gaming culture that is based around professional victimhood, intimidation, and the proliferation of falsehoods.
It is not about justice, it is about politics. Politics strives to control the behavior of others.

Social justice warriors base their arguments on exploiting guilt politics, collective identity and intersectionality. Expect language games and kafkatrapping. Don't expect individual responsiblity or merit.

Results are measured by the gains made by a minority against a majority and emotional peaks.

SJW types try controlling the language and the agenda by claiming a higher moral authority. Remember that the Practical Grudge Limit can be very useful when escaping the collective guilt.

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Socratic method

the use of questions, as employed by Socrates, to develop a latent idea, as in the mind of a pupil, or to elicit admissions, as from an opponent, tending to establish a proposition.

Socrates engaged in questioning of his students in an unending search for truth. He sought to get to the foundations of his students' and colleagues' views by asking continual questions until a contradiction was exposed, thus proving the fallacy of the initial assumption. This became known as the Socratic Method, and may be Socrates' most enduring contribution to philosophy.

My preferred debate tactic. This IS NOT sealioning.
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One who chooses to take the Journey and experience faith, actively Manifesting that faith, focused on their own path. Their path is experience. It's about the Journey, that movement along the way that can't be predicted. It's juicy, it's messy, it's mind blowing and it’s supremely passionate.

It's ecstatic in a way that passivity never will approach. The Journey is SUPPOSED to drag you out of your comfort zone and your expectations and your perceptions and your understandings.

You can't walk between the worlds if you have both feet and nine fingers firmly anchored in one.

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solar eclipse     See eclipse

solar festival     dates of solstices & equinoxes

An equinox or solstice, a quarter day that marks the peak, valley or balance of solar power. Despite popular belief, a solar festival is the midpoint of the season, not the beginning. Most neopagan tradtions mark solar festivals as Lesser Sabbats.

Another name for the winter solstice is Midwinter (also here), another name for the summer solstice is Midsummer (also here).

On my WebTree path, a solar festival begins at sunrise of the the day before the actual solar event and lasts until sunrise the day after. That makes it the traditional three days.

At the Solstices, the Sun is revered at the point of its apparent death at midwinter - and of its maximum power at the noon of the year when the days are longest. At the Equinoxes, day and night are balanced. At the Spring Equinox, the power of the sun is on the increase, and we celebrate the time of sowing and of preparation for the gifts of Summer. At the Autumnal Equinox, although day and night are of equal duration, the power of the sun is on the wane, and we give thanks for the gifts of the harvest and prepare for the darkness of Winter.

These four festivals are astronomical observances, and we can be sure our ancestors marked them with ritual because many of the stone circles are oriented to their points of sunrise or sunset. By the time the circles were built, our ancestors had become a pastoral people, and times of sowing and reaping were vital to them.

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solar limitations     See Shockley-Queisser Limit

solitary practitioner

Solitary practitioners are individuals preferring to work in private rather than within the confines of a group or coven. Some practice and study a particular single tradition, while others, like the Eclectic Wiccan pick, choose and blend different traditions. Wicca with its diverse number of traditions works well with this sort of practice, and Solitary working can be as fulfilling as working in a group setting. Because of its solitary nature and without clear guidance, it does involve a great deal of self-study and determination to achieve results and without a Mentor, it is easy to go astray as no one is around to correct any mistakes or deviations. However, many Solitaries follow the way of Nature and let themselves enjoy the ride within Mother Nature Herself, knowing that Nature cannot be wrong. Solitary Wiccans often undertake a ritual of self-initiation to dedicate themselves to the Goddess and God.

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solstice   See archaeoastronomy.com for dates this year

  1. Astronomy.
    1. either of the two times a year when the sun is at its greatest distance from the celestial equator: about June 21, when the sun reaches its northernmost point on the celestial sphere, or about December 22, when it reaches its southernmost point.Compare summer solstice, winter solstice.
    2. either of the two points in the ecliptic farthest from the equator.
  2. a furthest or culminating point; a turning point.

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somatic sexuality     See sexuality - somatic

somebody else's problem

Somebody else's problem (also known as someone else's problem or SEP) is a psychological effect where people choose to dissociate themselves from an issue that may be in critical need of recognition. Such issues may be of large concern to the population as a whole but can easily be a choice of ignorance by an individual.

Author Douglas Adams' comedic description of the condition, which he ascribes to a physical "SEP field", has helped make it a generally recognized phenomenon. Somebody Else's Problem has been used to capture public attention on matters that may have been overlooked and has less commonly been used to identify concerns that an individual suffering symptoms of depression should ignore. This condition has also been employed as trivial shorthand to describe factors that are "out of scope" in the current context.

"Somebody Else's Problem", an effectively-magical field that obscures things you think aren't relevant to you, such that even though you see them (or hear them or read them) you don't actually *notice*, and quickly forget.

More generally, the phenomenon that causes people to ignore issues that they know about but think of as either not something they can do anything about, or not personally relevant to them right now. This can result in something that's very important to a group of people being ignored by every individual member of that group.

Popularized by Douglas Adams in the "Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy" series, in which Ford Prefect describes it as:

"An SEP is something we can't see, or don't see, or our brain doesn't let us see, because we think that it's somebody else's problem.... The brain just edits it out, it's like a blind spot. If you look at it directly you won't see it unless you know precisely what it is. Your only hope is to catch it by surprise out of the corner of your eye."

There’s actually a psychological term for an SEP field: the bystander effect. When a group of people observes an emergency like a fire or a mugging, there’s a tendency for them to believe that someone else has the situation under control. Someone else is probably calling the fire department. Somebody else will probably find a police officer.

The bystander effect is apparent in the business world, too. Let’s say you have two lists of tasks: one list is directly assigned to you, while the other is “up for grabs” by anyone on your team. Psychologically, you’re more likely to cross things off your own list before you worry with the team list.

The bystander effect occurs when the presence of others discourages an individual from intervening in an emergency situation. Social psychologists Bibb Latané and John Darley popularized the concept following the infamous 1964 Kitty Genovese murder in New York City. As Genovese was stabbed to death outside her apartment, neighbors failed to step in to assist or call the police. Latané and Darley attributed the bystander effect to the perceived diffusion of responsibility (onlookers are less likely to intervene if there are other witnesses who seem likely to do so) and social influence (individuals monitor the behavior of those around them to determine how to act).
Bystander Effect from Psychology Today

See also Somebody Else’s Problem

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sonenday      See Sunday

Sparkpoint       This year's date.

WebTree fire festival & cross quarter day. Sparkpoint marks the beginning of spring and the return of the light, staring at sunset the day before the midpoint between the winter solstice and the spring equinox and ending at sunset on the day after (traditional three days). Sparkpoint marks the beginning of the WebTree year.

I'm winterborn in the first part of January, so this has always been special. I was premature, so this might even have been my birthday.

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Similar to a thoughtform, but with an independent existence after creation. Usually tied to a physical object and not autonomous.

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spring equinox      See equinox
     The MIDDLE of spring, not the beginning.

Springtide     See Imbolc

THE standard argument

“The people who pay attention to laws are not the ones you should be worried about.”

It applies to every single mala prohibita law you can name. The people who will obey the law will obey. And those taking advantage will simply break the law with no real consequences unless they are caught and convicted. The only things that increase are taxes and government power.

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Starwell     Winter solstice.

WebTree solar festival & quarter day marking the winter solstice and the middle of winter. A time of blood, contrasts and promises that celebrates the height of winter's power and the Wheel turning towards spring and eventually summer. Starwell lasts from sunrise on the day before the solstice to sunrise the day after (traditional three days).

The Nightlord reaches his greatest strength and pays with the Wound while his weird the Daylord is reborn.

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the Still

Not one of my prouder inventions. I stop speaking to someone, usually for months at a time. Goal is supposed to be a year and a day, but I’ve never made it that far. Sometimes it’s the best way out of a bad situation.

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stock     See kin

storge     or storgh

Familial love, common empathy, the love of parents for children or children for parents. To a lessor extent, other relatives as well, although philos plays it's part there too. One of the Greek words for love.

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the Story      Stories are important, but they are signposts.

The Story is told while the Journey is lived.

The only two purposes of the story are to honor the memory of those who have gone before and to teach you to recognize where the path begins for your own Journey. The rituals are not the faith. The map is not the territory. The words are not the thing. The book tells you how to start, not how to end.

Story People are the followers of a revealed faith, “the answers could be in the very next book.” Story People seek to live the fable.

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the Story vs. the Journey      See the Journey vs. the Story

straw man fallacy

The straw man is a fallacy in which an opponent's argument is overstated or misrepresented in order to be more easily attacked or refuted. The technique often takes quotes out of context or, more often, incorrectly paraphrases or summarizes an opponent's position. Then after "defeating" the position, the attacker claims to have beaten the real thing.

Although the term straw man is a recent coinage, the concept is ancient. In the "Topics," Aristotle acknowledges "that in argument it would be inappropriate to interpret as someone's position an opinion that he did not express or is not committed to, in virtue of what he said" (Douglas Walton, "Methods of Argumentation"). The name of the fallacy represents the idea that although a straw man may look like a human, it won't put up any resistance in a fight.

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Sturgeon's Revelation

“Ninety percent of everything is crud.”

I repeat Sturgeon's Revelation, which was wrung out of me after twenty years of wearying defense of science fiction against attacks of people who used the worst examples of the field for ammunition, and whose conclusion was that ninety percent of SF is crud. Using the same standards that categorize 90% of science fiction as trash, crud, or crap, it can be argued that 90% of film, literature, consumer goods, etc. is crap. In other words, the claim (or fact) that 90% of science fiction is crap is ultimately uninformative, because science fiction conforms to the same trends of quality as all other artforms.
- Theodore Sturgeon, Venture 49, September 1957

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sub rosa

‘under the rose’; confidential.

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subjective reality/truth
     See objective reality vs. subjective reality

summer solstice      See solstice

Summer's End     See Samhain

Summergate    This year's date.

WebTree fire festival & cross quarter day. Summergate marks the beginning of summer staring at sunset the day before the midpoint between the vernal equinox and the summer solstice and ending at sunset on the day after (traditional three days). The Winterlord throws open the Gates of Death and enters the Underworld.

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Sun-blessed salt     See blessed salt

Suncrest      Summer solstice.

WebTree solar festival & quarter day marking the summer solstice and the middle of summer. A time of blood, contrasts and promises that celebrates the height of summer's power and the Wheel turning towards autumn and eventually winter. Suncrest lasts from sunrise on the day before the solstice to sunrise the day after (traditional three days).

The Daylord reaches his greatest strength and pays with the Wound while his weird the Nightlord is reborn.

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sunnandæg      See Sunday

sunnenday      See Sunday

sunnon-dagaz      See Sunday

sunward      See deosil

sunwise      See deosil

superior conjunction

the instant when a planet passes on the opposite side of the Sun from Earth (Mercury or Venus)

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A supermoon is the coincidence of a full moon or a new moon with the closest approach the Moon makes to the Earth on its elliptical orbit, resulting in the largest apparent size of the lunar disk as seen from Earth. The technical name is the perigee-syzygy of the Earth-Moon-Sun system. The term "supermoon" is not astronomical, but originated in modern astrology. The association of the Moon with both oceanic and crustal tides has led to claims that the supermoon phenomenon may be associated with increased risk of events such as earthquakes and volcanic eruptions, but the evidence of such a link is widely held to be unconvincing.

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supine    caution

The Supine temperament is the quintessential model of a servant leader. They always place their own needs secondary to the good of the body. It is presented as a balanced mix between Melancholic and Sanguine temperaments, while the person may be introvert and extrovert as well.

Motivated to be useful in a larger sense, Supines are driven to serve a higher cause than their own self-interest. This can lead them to appear subservient and even indeferent when it comes to their own needs, but in the interest of their chosen causes, they can be fiercely assertive. At their best, they’re caring, gentle, dependable and loyal; at their worst they can be insecure, weak-willed, and indecisive.

  1. lying on the back, face or front upward.
  2. inactive, passive, or inert, especially from indolence or indifference.
  3. (of the hand) having the palm upward.

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surveillance capitalism    caution

Monetizing data gathered through surveillance, often without the willing permission of the followed.

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Survival Rule of Threes

On Earth, humans can live:
  • 3 minutes without AIR
  • 3 hours without SHELTER
  • 3 days without WATER
  • 3 weeks without FOOD
  • 3 months without HOPE
The Survival Rule of Threes from Urban Survival Site
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  1. the ability to be sustained, supported, upheld, or confirmed
  2. Environmental Science. the quality of not being harmful to the environment or depleting natural resources, and thereby supporting long-term ecological balance
A noble goal and a great marketable add-on feature, but not itself a practical industry.

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swords     See air, Tarot


  1. pertaining to or characteristic of a sybarite; characterized by or loving luxury or sensuous pleasure:
  2. of, relating to, or characteristic of Sybaris or its inhabitants.

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  1. Logic. an argument the conclusion of which is supported by two premises, of which one (major premise) contains the term (major term) that is the predicate of the conclusion, and the other (minor premise) contains the term (minor term) that is the subject of the conclusion; common to both premises is a term (middle term) that is excluded from the conclusion. A typical form is “All A is C; all B is A; therefore all B is C.”
  2. deductive reasoning.
  3. an extremely subtle, sophisticated, or deceptive argument.

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Synchronicity, The Law of
     See The Law of Synchronicity

synodic month    See month, lunar


  1. the combination of different forms of belief or practice
  2. the fusion of two or more originally different inflectional forms

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Synthesis, The Law of      See The Law of Synthesis


  1. Astronomy. an alignment of three celestial objects, as the sun, the earth, and either the moon or a planet:
  2. Classical Prosody. a group or combination of two feet, sometimes restricted to a combination of two feet of different kinds.
  3. any two related things, either alike or opposite.
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