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Occasionally I've wandered in where I was not wanted and gave truthful answers.  Sometimes I even did it deliberately.  A little disruption now can prevent disaster later.

NeoNotes - Sex positive

I'm considerably more 'sex positive' than most of the posters here. In my Corporate Clone days, I collected pelts. It was another way of controlling other people. Believe me, I'm an expert when I speak here.

Sex without the emotional connection is masturbation. And just as fulfilling.

I call it the pillow talk problem. Simply put, what do we talk about after f…ing?

The Greeks had words to describe the different dimensions of love. Simple truth. The more of those dimensions you make part of your relationship, the better the sex.

Sex is more than exchanging fluids and viruses and bacteria. Sex is about life. Sex can make your life better. Or it can drain your passion to nearly nothing.

Your choice.

ETA: It's obvious that the better you know the other person, the less likely you are to get infected. I totally agree with conservatives there.

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Taproot: Taboo

Because this post discusses child sexuality, the entry text has been removed from the front page and the catedgory pages. Click the post title above or the link below to load.

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A brief update

So yesterday I got wrapped up in Pagan Vigil.

There's an essay called
You Are Not Alone by Bill Whittle. It's absolutely one of the best modern liberty essays I've read. Since it's no longer online, I posted the essay at Pagan Vigil without permission. That's not a decision I make lightly, but I think it's a vitally important essay and people need to read for themselves. You should too, by the way. It talks about the Old Breed in a way I've not been able to match.

And I'm tiptoeing around the big subject.

Gavin Frost passed on Sunday.

The
Frosts are controversial for many reasons. They were openly and publicly pagan in a time when that was too much for the American public. They managed to get the IRS to recognize the Church of Wicca. And some of their teaching methods were questionable.

Specifically they described sexually initiating the "Wicca Child" in
The Witch's Bible.

Which means I cannot talk about them without talking about a subject that I have been avoiding for years.

This is the post where I talk about the Frosts.

The next one is where I go into taboo territory.

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Insomina at 3 a.m.

There are times I really resent my insomnia.

Take this morning. As much as I enjoy cuddling, if
I'm awake and my companion is not, it gets boring after a while. Just breathing her scent and feeling her warm flesh pressed up against me isn't enough. Sometimes I want to talk and sometimes I want to fuck. Both require her to be awake.

Ah well.

That's when I squirm out of bed and go find a place to read or skim the internet. At least one of us should sleep.

There are other drawbacks to insomnia. Go two or three days with only a little sleep and it gets harder to think. It also means that every few days you end up crashing for a few extra blessed hours of sleep.

And it means that it's harder to put myself out there and write.

I've an idea or two for Tuesday. But right now I think I will change my laundry and see if my beard on her thighs will wake her. It's almost six now.

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NeoNotes - Nothing supernatural exists

Here's some thinking I shared on a mostly Christian conservative site.

The supernatural is the natural that we haven't managed to explain yet.

Or, as a good friend of mine put it, "Nothing supernatural exists."

ETA: Before I draw the wrath of the crowd, please notice I did not say the Divine does not exist.

ETA2: Yes, I know she was caging Star Trek. We laughed about it, especially since she didn't like Spock.


Aha, someone likes the philosophy! Always a pleasure.

Part of the barrier is the language. We're attempting to describe things that lay mostly outside our comprehension. How could Benjamin Franklin possibly explain a smartphone, much less the internet that makes it possible? We do not have a fraction of the understanding.

Part of it is we have a symbol mismatch between us. Monotheistic faiths often assume there is a distinct separation between Creator and Creation. That's not a universal or even a popular idea in all populations.

But I prefer a simpler theory. Why would a Creator make something alien to It's existence? Wouldn't Creation be a Manifestation reflecting (at the very least) the likes and dislikes of the Creator?


Well, personally I think magick is technology that we don't yet fully understand. The World is full of such wonders. Applying bread mold to wounds? Companion planting? And three of the most important civilization advances, beer, bread, and cheese. Those are pretty amazing things.

Because I really, REALLY don't want to start a major argument here, I think I'm going to leave the mechanisms of prayer and spell casting out of this discussion. For my purposes, it's enough that they work sometimes.

What's the saying? "Prayers are always answered. Sometimes the answer is no."


Well, technology requires someone to design, fabricate, and assemble, but I see your point.

We may still have a symbol mismatch here. You're thinking of magick as cheat codes that let you get around universal rules. I'm saying that the design is such that you don't need an Outside Force to get things done. With a well built car, you don't have to stop the engine and crawl underneath to shift into third.

FWIW, I'm not alone in distinguishing between stage & entertainment magic and ritual magick. A minor distinction I know, and probably not all that important to most folks.

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NeoNotes - Origin of Wicca

Here's some background information on Wicca and Gerald Gardner that I wrote at another site. I'm including it here as general background. I've not really written in depth on either.

Here's where I offend some of my fellow pagans.

In very broad terms, there's a difference between a revealed faith and an experienced faith. One approach is not necessarily better, but they are different in their approaches. A revealed faith is based mainly in what has been written and interpreting those writings.

An experienced faith requires people to do, to act. And there is also going to be at least one moment where you get a glimpse of what the Divine really is. That's something I really don't have the words for and it seems to be different for every person. Some embrace it. Others run from it. And others are so afraid of what they see that they go all Sweetness and Light and Candycorn.

What they become depends on their response to facing the Divine. Some drift off to other paths, something more "hardcore." Others try to find a way to cope. Some turn away from their path all together and embrace the "faith of their fathers" or atheism or something completely different.

Wicca, particularly in it's post-modern form, is very much a gateway, a transition. Most people grow beyond it. That's why you won't find many "system" books beyond the 101 level. At some point you should go out and find your own way.

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Technically some pagan trads draw in part from fertility cults. So some misguided people see joining a pagan group as a way to get their rocks off. They could meet Hot Bisexual Pagan Chicks and have mind-blowing Ritual Sex under the Full Moon!

It doesn't work like that.

Those are the ones who soon "wash out" or spin off to form their own sex-based group. When they can't attract members to the new group, they blame everyone but themselves. After all, they're open about sex. Why wouldn't people line up to have sex with them?

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I know you've blocked me, but Wicca probably originated in the late 19th or early 20th Century. Parts were older, but parts of Christianity predate Christ.

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Well through the 19th Century, it wasn't unusual for a Christian sermon to last for hours. Some of the early 20th Century tent revivals lasted hours. In our time, I don't think you could keep an American congregation still for a half hour even with a gifted preacher. That's what the hymns are for.

Religion changes.

I'm not about to give up my clean sheets and my hot running water.

There's no "unbroken line" running back to prehistory.

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The origins of Wicca are snarled, Gerald Gardner liked being the mysterious wise man.

There are four distinct threads. One was the folk tradition that Gardner was initiated into. This tradition was incomplete and placed the emphasis on practical magick rather than Deity and worship. There was the stuff that Gardner researched from pagan sources, which focuses more on Deities and worship. There was the stuff that Gardener "borrowed" from Freemasonry, the O.T.O. and the Golden Dawn. Finally there was the original stuff which tried to make everything cohesive. This last bit probably mostly came from Doreen Valiente. Gardner didn't give her credit for years, that almost certainly led to their falling out.

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Kafkatrap

I was adding commentary to some of my lexicon entries.

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Recoding

I am recoding the Lexicon.

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Rhythm Of Life



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Coding your mind

Let's talk about how your mind works.

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Naturally yours

You know the thing I love most about the summer?

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Thank you

The last few days you may have seen some site issues.

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What witch?

The "Witch Winter Solstice Ritual" in Nylon is populist pap. It's a lot like having Easter using only Cadbury eggs and never once mentioning a resurrection or what it might mean.





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No significance

This only happens every seventy years or so.

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Redirecting

I should have thought of this years ago.

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What's with all the GREEN?

Short answer - I LIKE green.

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Carried away

I spent WAY too much time yesterday on this site.

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Interconnections

Just because we humans don’t like a species doesn’t mean it’s not absolutely essential.

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Changing sex

I'm changing the tag "sex" to the category "sex."

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Daily

Since I don't have much time this week, I thought talk about the daily things we sometimes overlook.

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Bloody sacrifice

I don't think animals should be killed for ritual use. I have issues with animals being killed for food. It's why I still pray before meals. I'm honoring their sacrifice even though I know they don't understand.

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Intuition & Inspiration

You have to begin by learning. Intuition relies on knowledge and experience.

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Religion and politics

When I started blogging, I separated my political stuff from my pagan stuff. I did it after a lot of soul searching. It would have been so simple to wrap everything into a giant ball of victimhood and blame the world for my troubles. It would have saved me the hosting fees too. Two things stopped me.

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Welcome to summer

This year it's a bit cooler than I like. And we had scattered rainstorms, so the party was inside. Then the heat pump blower quit (on a Saturday), I built a fire in the firepace (fire GOOD grunts Neo).

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Act of Change

According to popular culture, magick is about breaking the rules and molding reality,

Nope.

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Sex advice

I'm not sure it is love I feel, or if I can feel love at all anymore. But it is friendship for a few close friends, and if some of those are ladies and it involves sex, I am certainly not going to say no. Just can't be exclusive about it, it is not in my nature.

"I think the exclusivity does hurt a lot of relationships, but then I was poly before I knew the meaning of the word. Also think that it is a mistake (and probably the greatest crime that Christianity ever committed) to confuse love and sex and physical contact and intimacy.

That's me from more than thirteen years ago.

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Starlight

You are made of starlight. Don’t forget to shine.
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The Lady Always Chooses

When I read Margaret Murray and Robert Graves the first time, I never did buy into the matriarchy. There seemed to be another reason that they touched on, but it wasn't matriarchy. Neither were really thinking about balance.

Poetic inspiration gives a glimse. That's a long way from manifesting.

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Taproot: Through the Woods

The Woods. Summer weekends meant the family would escape the Phoenix heat. In the fall Dad insisted we come to watch the aspen turn. In the winter we would come to play in the snow. After the stepsibs moved away and it was just teenage me with the folks, we'd still come to enjoy the woods. I will always be the desert guy who Visits The Woods.

My stepdad had passed just weeks short of his birthday. The day after his service the family went to scatter his ashes. Disposing of human remains in a National Park is illegal, so I won't tell you exactly where.

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Faith Triad

There's a big truth here. No, make that a Big Truth®. The World we live in now is not the same as the World 2000 plus years ago. Try explaining antiseptics or refrigeration in Latin and see how far you get.

No matter what the inspiration, you still have to come down off the mountain. Living in the Here & Now helps make you human.

So after some thought, I've come up with another triad.

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Manifest

At some point you come back from the mountain and across the wilderness.

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New sex menu item

I’ve put the Sex catagory in the main menu.

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Collecting pelts - updated

No, it wasn’t responsible. No, I’m not proud of it. And yes, it lasted longer than it should have with me.

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☯ Lady in the Court of…

It was a warm summer night and I was laying on my roof staring deep into the sky. One of the local cats was on the corner cleaning itself and hoping I would share some food.

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Just before it sparks

Today is Imbolc in many neo-pagan traditions.

Not mine.

Today I am indulging in a mostly day off. I’ve not had one for two months.

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Accident

Mom ended up with a broken clavicle, a punctured lung, massive bruising, and some confusion.

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Totems I have known

Strictly speaking, these were’t “totems” in the normal sense. They probably didn’t already entirely exist. The face or persona probably came from me because I thought it was cool. Making lower elementals isn’t really all that hard. Making lower elementals that stick around can be difficult, but I’ve got a flair for it. It made my childhood interesting, some of my “imaginary” friends were really there.

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Holiday breakfast hit

Eggnog French toast.

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Fireplace

Fire good, grunts NeoWayland.

I joke about it, but that is the heart of it. Or maybe the hearth. It’s the center.

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